Monday, April 16, 2012

Rockin' On

These days I'm occupied with a home-based full time position of Job Seeker. It often comes with long unpaid OT hours and feelings of  'I can't see any light at the end of this tunnel, dammit'. However there is no supervision or micromanagement from a higher authority and there is flexibility to manage tasks as I please. There is no need to dress up each morning to fit in with new trends in society. There is no need to walk to the station and fight for a place to stand while using public transport. There is also no need to make awkward small talk in the mornings with colleagues. Results and success, as I understand, are based purely on 1. one's own efforts and determination and 2. a resume that would get noticed among thousands of others and 3. other variables such as luck, probability, timing, prejudices of recruitment personnel.

I have more observations to add on the Singlish phenomenon. Perhaps I was too rude and insensitive the last time I mentioned it, a couple of blogs ago, so I elaborate more. It is a struggle for one to hold on to one's grammar and accents in a society that uses a different style. The most challenging part is to make yourself understood, and in the process most of us, might acquire bits of the local accent, unknowingly or unwillingly. Also I noticed that there is a distinct 'melody' in the Singlish accent that'll eventually creep up on one's sentence delivery. Sometimes, I think it's a personality thing. I know a few people who have lived here for years, yet speak without a traces of the local accent. And then I know many others, who have acquired it less than an year into their stay here. Nothing wrong with it, of course. I'm just an observer, for now.

I like train rides here. I dislike sitting on a 'reserved seat' because I can't fall asleep or take off my adrenaline induced alert-mode for fear that someone who is entitled to it might step into the train (yes, I know I'm selfish, but few like to give up on a cozy seat especially on a long ride or on a tiring day) or that I won't notice someone entitled waiting for the seat or that I notice only after I have got several rude stares from other passengers. But otherwise, if I have a well-earned seat, it can be a good time to tend to a variety of hobbies like reading, listening to music or playing games. Actually tending to hobbies, is the only way to go. Without a hobby one might find it difficult to 'pretend to sleep' because there is no head rest, or find it too boring to look at the lastest shoe and dress fashions, or awkward to stare into the eyes of the passengers sitting opposite or even more awkward to stare at the crotch of the passenger standing in front of you.

The only other career of mine that is flying off at the moment is Guitar Rock 2. I am now touring as a rock guitarist in glamorous places like New York, Miami, Detroit, Seattle, Los Angeles and even Japan. And I proudly admit that I am getting good with my touch screen-for-a-rock-guitar substitute instrument!

The picture below has kept me amused for awhile now. I think it might be because the one time I tried yoga in a crowded class, I felt exactly like the white/yellow kitty and didn't like it.

"This is why I like to be in the front row at yoga"


Thursday, April 12, 2012

Day 9

Shu is on the hunt these days. For jobs. This being the third time, the drill is familiar.

Survival Code:
1. Keep applying to jobs even if chances seem very slim; leave no stones un-turned
2. Develop new and re-kindle old networks that will be helpful with the job search
3. DO NOT let the mind cripple and lose faith in oneself, one's abilities or one's ambitions
4. Keep sane by tending to hobbies and keeping in touch with family and close friends
5. Keep healthy - eat well, sleep well and do enjoyable physical activities
6. Treat oneself occasionally with favourite food, etc
7. Avoid large social gatherings like the plague - they can be depressing
8. Resist the urge to overspend or binge on things - the 'good feeling' never lasts
9. Be a little selfless - sometimes it helps to take the focus off oneself
10. Stay positive, stay realistic, stay calm - it's going to be okay!


An interesting set of requirements seen on a job advertisement:

Candidate who will put the company above self - Kidding me? NO WAY!
Candidate who is a keen learner with an open attitude
Candidate who is looking for high exposure to different aspects of the profession
Candidate who can embrace change and drive change - o_O 
Candidate who wants to add tremendous value to the world -  o_O 
Candidate who is ready to build one of the greatest organizations with company XO_O 

Check out this badass at Universal Studios Singapore - The Battlestar Galactica. It's the world's tallest dueling roller coaster. The supporting (vertical) structures make it seem a little safer than other roller coaster rides. But looks can be deceiving.


Friday, April 6, 2012

New beginnings

My adventures in the Arabian peninsula are now just a dream. To me, the 2.5 years of "borrowed time" turned out to be a myriad of (mostly) positive experiences, realizations and transformations. I miss so much things about Dubai, mostly family and then the friendships of the remarkable people I considered close. I am not the biggest fan of children for obvious reasons, but I do miss my piglet and I'll miss watching him grow and change. I'll miss his mother very much too. She's always been there for me and watched over me since the beginning of my time. I feel deeply indebted for all that so a tiny part of me does not feel too good about leaving her behind.

But then, my time there was up. I have moved closer to the equator, to a tropical rain forest climate - that is Singapore. The natural environment here is incredible. Compared to a desert environment with sandstorms, extreme temperatures ranging from 10 to 50 degrees Celsius and little biodiversity, this place, with no varying seasons, uniform temperatures, ample rainfall and lots of greeeeen trees, is heaven!

Katy Kat, her other half and their little furry son, Hans have welcomed me to their home and given me a very comfortable space to stay. I'm immensely grateful for their hospitality.

My flight was pleasant although it had no entertainment whatsoever. A lot of intermittent sleep. Good food. No irritating neighbors. The only thing I found mildly amusing was a guy in front of me asking for biscuits and Chinese food, which were not in the menu and unopened canned drinks (probably to take home). I have heard so many horrific accounts from cabin crew on the different types of queer personalities they meet onboard. I sympathize people in this job especially when having to deal with demanding passengers. I try not to ask them anything so that it's one less passenger for them to worry about. Also, I find that as I get older, I meet lesser and lesser irritating people on flights. Guess I look more intimidating now. GRRRRRR.

I knew that Singapore was spotlessly clean. But when I walked into a toilet at the airport, my mind wasn't prepared  for THAT much of cleanliness. And I had the SAME emotions run through me as I had back in 2004 when I came here the first time; despair at not having the luxury of bidet showers anymore and being spooked with the auto flush feature when I bent to pick a call from my mother. On a positive note, the exit had a touch-screen device to rate the services of the cleaner in charge of the toilet and I gave her an "Excellent" remark because she did a wonderful job of impressing visitors with Singapore's cleanliness standards.

I have also done a little bit of exploring around the local community in the past two days. It feels very liberating to walk around in shorts and not feel like I'm committing an offence, because this culture is less conservative when it comes to dress sense. Incidentally, I walk more now than I used to and I realize that Singapore is quite HOT and humid! Up until a few weeks ago, the most walking I did was from my home to the parking lot and from the parking lot to my office and vice versa (and the occasional mall). My old gal, Chariotte was given to away to a lovely Omani family. A bit too late into my stay in the Middle East for this realization I suppose, but that Arab family changed so much of the close-minded and negative stereotype of Arabs that I held previously. Funny, that.

So yeah, back to what I was rattling on about. I came mentally prepared for BAD vegetarian food, so I was pleasantly surprised when I found a nice Chinese vegetarian food stall with a good variety of colourful vegetables with flavour. I have also been binging on peach green tea, with and without pearls. Shopping for toiletries was rather disappointing. They only have GIANT-sized bottles, as if they strategically corner consumers to go for bulk savings. Where's the variety and choice to change one's toiletries and try out new types often?? I really wanted a Dettol Cool shower foam, but I had to compromise and go for a different brand with an average-sized bottle because the only Dettol shower foam that came in a decent size was one for men, and thinking a little ahead, I decided against buying it. [After note: Ryuu made an interesting comment to this saying that men's shower gels did not contain any testosterone in them.]

There isn't much cultural diversity here. The people here, well, aren't too friendly outright. They like to mind their own business, which I respect and find admirable, actually. My people back home are way too interested in others and it can get very unpleasant. Thing is, I've found a lot of the people here are nice, but you would only know this if you made conversation with them, which is not often. This is a very-South Asian trait. So walking among them, one feels invisible. And while I am at it, I can't help but feel a little negative (as a foreigner) about Singlish. I understand it's something that's evolved over the years and fused itself into the culture and that it is an accepted way for locals to understand each other. But, where the English is grammatically wrong, my insides roll with horror. I do sincerely hope that, at least, the grammatically wrong parts of S(E)inglish won't brush on my usage of English while I'm here.

When my friends saw me off at the airport, one of them jokingly asked "Why, doesn't Singapore have good hairdressers?". I thought it was a good idea to get a haircut before I went there. Should have thought harder, Shu, you idiot! The woman who chopped off my hair mercilessly was having a bad day at work and she took it out on my head. Oh well. Hair always grows back.

One of the highlights of my day was going for a swim. I must be half-fish.

Looking forward to meeting several old friends in the days to come. I have not seen them in AGES!

It feels good to be unemployed for awhile. So much less stress.


Sunday, April 1, 2012

Piglet and me

My dearest little JD,

I'm going to miss you more than I imagined.

Love always,
Your Ammil


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