Sunday, December 25, 2011

The years are catching up with me

Only last year during my vacation, I jumped in on invitations to go cycling and fly kites by the river with my adopted brother. And a couple of years before that, again during a vacation, I built a tree house with him - it was an unfulfilled childhood dream of mine to make one and he was more than happy to go the extra miles to build a nice platform with a roof for three of us to relax and play cards.

Today, he asked me if I wanted to go cycling and I heard myself say, "No, not this time, I feel too old for that now."

The trip home has been okay so far. It is always nice to experience the familiar and pleasant things one misses, like the family, the food and the environment. The transition from 49 weeks overseas to 3 weeks back in the home country is like a minor culture shock. It takes several days to get one's head around the people, attitudes, obligations and ways of life. The way of life, for me, is the easiest to get used to. Taking public transport, putting up with the abundance of parasites around the house and having to put up with a little extra house chores are negligible issues. Harder to get used to are having to meet random people (who are close with my parents but not me) and pretend to be interested in them, being reminded to call everyone who I should show my gratefulness to 'out of a sense of duty', being introduced and displayed as the 'daughter from abroad', having to defend myself about why I am not interested in marriage yet and having to put up with sympathies of 'well wishers' who are worried about my single status and recommendations to allow my parents to 'start looking for suitors' without further delay. So these 3-4 weeks out of a 48-49 weeks in any given year are the most challenging, requiring a lot of mental endurance.

On to more interesting topics - the cats at home, to whom we have been supplying cat food from across the seas for several months now, are quite entertaining. They have fattened up from the scientifically balanced nutrition  present in commercial cat food pellets. They seem happier with the new change (see image below).

Kitty and Kini dozing off after a satisfying meal of cat food

Also, I was quite fascinated to watch my mom make tofu, soy milk and soy cutlets from 500g of raw soy seeds. The process involved blending pre-soaked soy seeds and straining the milk out. The residue mixed with spices went on to the making of the soy cutlet, which turned out delicious. The milk was then boiled (some was consumed as soy milk) and a curdling agent was added to this. The curdled mixture was poured on to a rectangular mould and the result in 45 minutes was a block of thick tofu. Such a simple and economical process for a great source of protein and fibre!

And that was Christmas of 2011.

Wednesday, December 21, 2011

The irritable bug


My body is definitely built for warmer climates. That's when it functions better. With the winter creeping up here, it's getting colder and people everywhere are going down with the flu.

I noticed a curious looking pair of socks that junior was wearing one day. The thought kept me up at work with fits of giggles.


NOT looking forward to the flight home with blocked sinuses. 


Friday, December 16, 2011

RIP Little Turtle

RIP little turtle. I regret my decision (with good intentions) to pull you off the seemingly unfriendly conditions of a pet shop and put you in a loving home with another turtle. I'm deeply sorry I couldn't understand your physical needs properly and it resulted in a slow and painful death for you.

The second half of this year has seen several guests coming to this house for long stay. Last week, came a domestic helper or in common terms, a "maid". The idea was to have someone who can watch the 4-year old so that the mother, after 4 years of being by his side, can start looking for career opportunities and have a guilt-free social life that doesn't affect other adults of the house. A good move, I think.

The first impressions of the new guest are that she is quite efficient in her work and with a pleasant personality. It'll take awhile for all of us to get used to each other's personalities (eccentricities included). She seemed awfully bored and sad the first few days. I once got her a newspaper in her native language and that helped to boost her mood a little. Then I noticed she likes to talk about her family and background with anyone who would listen. She is making progress, she's already done a lot of little things round the house to make it organised. I must admit I feel ashamed to have someone do some of my work like doing the laundry. But here's the thing, by the time I get around to doing it, she's already done it. Not cool. Got to admire these people who venture out of their homes, leaving behind their families (mostly losing them in the process of being overseas for extended periods of time) to earn and give them a better life. Some unlucky ones undergo unspeakable difficulties and injustice in the hands of cruel employers. Life is not always nice to everyone.

Also, as a result of having a plus one in the house, I have have been displaced and have come to share a room with my nephew. He seems to like having me around (I asked). Now my belongings are scattered all over the house and I find it terribly inconvenient to look for things, especially in the mornings before going to work.

Now I'm off to watch Tom Cruise in Mission Impossible 4, which has some scenes shot in my very own neighbourhood!

Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Lives keep a changin'

A blog is like a footprint. Today, I clicked to find out what I did at the same time last year and I was only mildly surprised.

We celebrated the nephew's 4th birthday today! The young man is growing up really fast. This time the party was in his school with all his friends. It was a very low key affair with just the family and I must say I loved it more than last year! I took off a few hours from work to join the celebrations with a class full of 4-5 year olds. Got to say, they looked rather adorable (but my heartfelt sympathies go to the class teachers, they have a very trying job). There was one little boy, dark and with thick rimmed spectacles that I wanted to kidnap and bring home to keep near my turtles. He looks very cute and geeky. I KNOW I sound like a creepy lady plotting to kidnap small boys, but I'm pretty sure I'll drop him off at his parents' (even without asking for a ransom) after he throws his first tantrum. Okay, maybe I haven't really thought this through.

My interests in blogging, reading and playing music have dwindled. While interesting thoughts and lines for a post do cross my mind during the day, it is rarely put down in words. Listening to music, investing time on the family and spending time with my closest friends (both online and offline) have taken a more pivotal role these days. I'm living inside my head a little less than I used to.

I'll be headed home in a few weeks. This time, I am somewhat looking forward to the trip. I want to spend time with my parents and make an effort to be nice to them (our time on Earth is limited), I'm excited to attend a special occasion of a special friend (and I avoid using the "W" word here so that she won't freak out!) and I'll be doing some travelling and sight seeing in my home country. Add that to good food and nostalgia - I'm ready to face the challenges of returning to the homeland!

Introducing my latest talent crush, Jarrod Radnich. He is BEYOND amazing!

Friday, December 2, 2011

The Expanding Family

Today, I had the most delicious lunch I have had in recent times. After eating what seemed like a little mountain on my plate (with zero guilt) and cancelling a trip out to the mall, I settled down to enjoy some TV and blog. It was my silver lining for the day (even better than the joys of adoption...more on that later).

In life you give and get. Here's the thing with families - the giving and the getting all happens in up-sized proportions.

The past few days have been spent filling in partly for the Lady of the House. The time I usually spend on my hobbies and catching up with friends have been sacrificed to contribute to the daily operations of the House. I think we are doing pretty okay (even without the dummy's guide), seeing that the house is not falling apart yet. We have crazy moments, happy moments, homicidal moments and even funny moments but that's all part and parcel of living with the family, right? While it has come to my attention that my beloved sis is quite the talented multi-tasker who thinks and does a million things, I can now begin to understand her binge spending on clothes/shoes and her joy of going out with her girls. Got to admit, Motherhood is a very stressful job - with little compensation, little appreciation, little or no assistance and if not careful, even long term health issues. No thanks, I still prefer my current job.

[Re-enacted and slightly exaggerated scene]

Grandma: JD, here, I made cheese toast for you.
JD: (makes a face) I DON'T WANT CHEESE TOAST. I WANT FRENCH TOAST.
Grandma: We don't have French toast. I'll make French toast for you on another day. Would you like to eat something else? Some oats, cereal, a sausage or a bun??
JD: (tries to fake crying) NOOOOOOOOOOOO. I WANT FRENCH TOAST.
Grandma: Will you sit and have a bun?
JD: NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.
Grandma: Then what else would you like to have?

(He eventually settles for a bun. *Aunt Shu quietly slips into her room and bangs her head on the wall*)


[A hypothetical dialogue that goes through Shu's mind as she witnesses the previous scene]

Aunt Shu: JD, here, I made cheese toast for you.
JD: (makes a face) I DON'T WANT CHEESE TOAST. I WANT FRENCH TOAST.
Aunt Shu: We don't have French toast, you have to eat cheese toast today. I'll make French toast for you on another day.
JD: (tries to fake crying) NOOOOOOOOOOOO. I WANT FRENCH TOAST.
Aunt Shu: No, you can't have French toast today.
JD: NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.
Aunt Shu: Okay then. Go sit on the couch and starve. Let me know when you feel like eating your cheese toast.

(According to Shu's text book of Bringing up Little Humans, he should settle for the cheese toast eventually)


We've been talking about this for awhile. Getting Toto a friend. I decided today is the day for the mission. After a round of grocery shopping, I dropped by the pets store. It went just like any other adoption process; the parents-to-be were shown all the kids on display, and they had to make the difficult choice of picking one (over many other hopefuls) to welcome into their loving and caring home. There was a tank with several turtles, big and small. The big ones seemed unhappy and stressed with overcrowding. Sadly, we can't have a big one and we can't have more than one; even Toto's friend was brought in with no prior approval from the Head of the house! The shopkeeper was helpful with information and I picked a small one that I thought was Toto's size. He was very rough with handling the poor thing, and he twirled the fellow around in a polythene bag as he tied a knot. Ouch. The adoption cost 15 bucks, and the friendly shopkeeper threw in three stones for free. I hate to think the little guy's life was worth only 15 bucks, instead, I like to think that I bought him (or her) his freedom from the evil pet store! After getting some green vegetable pellets for Toto, who is fussy with his greens, we drove home, with the new guy sitting on the front passenger seat!

Three brothers - all wearing green

Everyone was happy to welcome the new addition, I think. Toto and the new guy have not killed each other yet. They'll bond over time. The personalities are quite different. Toto is shy, lazy and prefers to stay in the water. The new guy is full of vigor, changing between the water and land (the stone), swimming fast, climbing on and drowning Toto and probably eating most of Toto's share of food. Hopefully, Toto will watch and learn some new skills from his 'brother' and also learn to stand up and fight for his share of things in the bowl.

We need a name for the new guy (who BTW, will be a surprise for my sister when she returns). I was thinking 'Manny' after a character I like in Modern Family. But I think I'll let JD do the honours of naming his new brother. After all, my parents gave my sister the honours of giving me my middle name.


Monday, November 28, 2011

2nd In Charge

My beloved sister is away travelling for about 10 days. This is her first time away for so long and she is very concerned about the extended time away from her 4-year old. Her motherly duties have been divided among the nephew's favourite grandma, the serious aunt (that would be me) and our new flatmate. My sister is so used to being on top of her game and running the show at home that she had a difficult time letting go and delegating duties to, in her mind, less capable people. Well, it is no wonder she thinks that way because when she is around we mostly prefer to stand back and mind our own business (Shu is guilty as charged)!

She was telling a million little things on her way out of the house and at several transits she had in Sri Lanka, Bangkok and finally at the destination, China (of which only a 40-60% may have made it to my long term memory). Several times I had to tell her to just shut up and go enjoy the trip because we will be just fine!

1. If he has a cough, do this, this and this
2. Don't forget to pick him up from school ON TIME
2. Use THIS pan instead of THIS one to heat his food
3. Be nice to him (yeah, you wait and see how he's going to get un-pampered by the aunt *evil grin*)
4. Don't forget to feed the turtle and clean its bowl (great, a 4-year old AND a turtle)
5. DO NOT let him do this, this and this
6. Make sure to check his homework diary and send the things the school wants
7. Etc, etc, etc (I'm pretty sure I was supposed to remember more than that!)

And if THOSE were not enough, we have a dummy's guide to walk us through for 10 days plastered to the kitchen cupboard (isn't she extremely thoughtful??):


Why, there's online consultation on Skype and Whatsapp too!

The moment she left, my 'responsible mode' kicked in. And I have been on top of things in her absence. Of course, I have plenty of help so it's easier. And I already have my expert certification in looking after 2-4 year olds. The kid's an interesting specimen to work with and observe; trying out quicker ways of eating food, hypnotherapy watching the effects of different types of training and coaching, etc. Results of data gathered will be used to research further on how best to bring up sensible and well rounded children.

Sigh. Military style techniques in Aunt Shu's School of Reform is only effective with persistent practice. It won't help when grandmas are too nice and accommodating of all requests!

Today, while buying doughnuts for his school snack, I was shocked to see the various types of doughnuts on display. They looked SOOO SUGARY that these might as well be called sugar coated diabetes. My teeth shuddered just looking at them.



Here's the latest addition to the family - a red-eared slider, aka. Toto the turtle.



I miss my super sis.

Wednesday, November 23, 2011

High on Life


Cruising along the waves of life, I am sailing on happy seas these days. Surrounded by good company, having all my needs looked after, having opportunities to make others happy, having yet another holiday (home) next month, having short-term objectives to work on and hearing good news from many close friends (jobs, weddings, babies, etc). Oh, and the radio seems to be playing more good music than not these days!

Maybe it's hit me that this feeling will pass and I'll have to leave all this behind soon to build a new life from scratch once again. So I'm subconsciously enjoying the moments, being more patient and I am thankful for all the good things I have.

I sought services of a cobbler today. Just how many people take their shoes to them these days? Or rather, can you even find cobblers on the roadsides now? This elderly person seemed quite comfortable in his seat on the floor, surrounded by all his tools and raw material. He even had two small suitcases next to him, I'm guessing to pack up his stuff and leave by night. He has been on that spot for as long as I can remember and is never short of customers. Maybe he likes a mobile, rent-free office space. He charged a fair fee and did a satisfactory job. Shouldn't one commend people like him who work hard and fairly to make a living?

The other day, I went to watch The Script - a three membered alternative Irish rock band - perform live in concert. I was standing waaaay at the back on a less concentrated spot. I had very little expectations for an outdoor performance after the last Usher concert I went to. But this turned out to be the best live performance I have ever been to. The music they make is AMAZING, the lyrics are absolutely heart warming (heart breaking?) and the lead singer's vocals are divine - this added to neat visual stage effects, totally won me over. It was not one of those concerts where the crowds danced like crazy. This was one where people sang along and swayed to the emotions the music triggered (ME included). A truly talented trio and I SOOO look forward to hearing more of them.

Friday, November 18, 2011

BECAUSE I CAN'T

Oh my, feels like a lifetime ago since my last blog.

I have a long overdue post, which I shall not try to tackle today in order to be fair to it.

It's been a little over a week since I got back from my holiday. The revitalised feeling is gone. I have caught up with friends and family. Photos have been uploaded on social networking sites. Bags have been unpacked. Office work is up to date. The bad flu I brought back is gone. A few more things to get on track, but nearly there.

One more concert tomorrow and I need to take a much-needed break from social activities. I miss my weekends at home. But I must admit that these days I am overwhelmed by the love of family and so many great friends around me. That's what fuels my life force these days.

I just (semi-consciously) said 'Thank you' to a scavenger mouse for dropping me a piece of rare scrap metal on Mousehunt. A sign I need to go get some sleep!

Damn, got to LOVE this song. Can't get it out of my head, sounds awesome played loudly over the radio while on the roads (best enjoyed without the video).


The title of this blog, is to vent over the fact that I have an innate inability to say NO to people, especially in the cases where I have to make decisions on the spot, which lands me in all kinds of unnecessary trouble sometimes.

Saturday, October 22, 2011

Keeping oneself busy

My mornings at work begin with a quick glance through the daily paper. In it, I look for local news in general (I hardly find anything inspiring, and most are depressing incidents), upcoming social events, letters to the editor and cricket news (to do with our team of course!). If I find anything interesting, I would either forward them to to family and friends or to myself, so that I can follow up on it at home.

Yesterday had two interesting social events lined up. One at a local reserve to release rehabilitated marine turtles to the sea and the other a volunteering event for breast cancer awareness. So early that morning, we (my guest and I) set out for a day full of fun activities.

For the turtle event, after what seemed like driving for hundreds of kilometres, we came to the area illustrated in the map mailed out by the event organisers. "7 km after gas station, take a right into security checkpoint". After passing the said gas station, there were no sign boards leading to a reservoir and seriously, who can tell how much 7km is when driving at 120km/h (heck, I can't tell 7km even otherwise). Then there came a small exit leading to a dirt road (no sign of a security checkpoint). I slowed down, unsure, because the consequence of missing an exit can be disastrous on a one-way highway leading to another state; you can't turn back for another half hour of driving. Call it a lucky guess, there came a 4WD with two women (who 'seemed' like the type to like turtles) and they cut right across us and took that exit. I immediately followed them (no time to think and miss an exit)!! Turns out, they even knew their way very well through the dirt roads leading to the reserve (again, without a single sign board). After about 5-10 mins of driving on dirt roads through the desert, we arrived. Now one might wonder, if these people were headed off somewhere else like a desert safari leading deeper into the desert dunes, what might have happended to us?? How could have we navigated back to the main road when the GPS had no coverage in this area?? Or what if they hadn't come in time and I missed the exit? Oh well, didn't have to worry about any of that!

The turnout was surprisingly huge. Nice to know there were so many enthusiasts who came to watch, along with their little ones. The weather here has take a turn for better here and the reserve was situated next to a beach, which was unpolluted. We had to fight to catch a glimpse of the turtles. I fought with the kids to get a chance to touch one, but they pushed me away when I was about two inches away from shaking hands with a little hawksbill.


All that story-telling aside, I do hope the turtles live long enough out there to make it back to the shore to breed. They are among so many amazing creatures shaped by millions of years of evolution to what they are today. Their habitats and breeding cycles have been vastly destroyed as a result of the parasitic menace, that are homo sapiens.


Event number two was more for my guest as she loves all things to do with crafts and sewing. We volunteered at an assembly line for sewing neck cushions for breast cancer patients. Now I am very skeptical if these will actually reach the patients, and if they do, would these actually make them feel better. Aren't there bigger things we can do for them than just sewing bags and cushions? But it was a good initiative to spread awareness and a good opportunity for selfish people like us to forget our lives for a bit and devote a little time for another. We weren't that useful; our line made just nine cushions and that was all the fabric the organisers had for our line. Only one thing hit my mind when I saw the pile of end products; please, let there not be as many patients as those cushions and bags imply.


My travel buddy for the day had fun and it did her a lot of good in terms of cheering her up. She even met a like minded sewing-lover. I overheard a conversation of theirs at a store for crafting items (went something like this):

The friend: OMG, LOOK at all these different colours of thread and fabric!!! [squeals]
The other person: Yes! It's amazing, they have a good collection.
The friend: I mean, it's such a turn on, seeing all this!
[Shu: o_O .... ]
The other person: People who are not into this type of thing won't get it.
[Shu: Hmmm.]

Made me think if I told someone that the sound of starting the Jeep's engine first thing in the morning and hearing its crisp and roaring sound was such a turn on, I'd get that same look (or worse). So yeah, whatever floats our boats!

Wednesday, October 19, 2011

Life is busy but good

Shu's a quitter! The Salsa classes failed to launch. I've missed 4 classes now, due to busy after-work travel planning work and well, lack of prolonged enthusiasm for that type of dance style.

I've missed blogging (relax Shu, it's been only 2 weeks) soooo much. Many days passed when I wanted to write so badly but did not make it before my auto-shut down time.

On a serious note, I have come to realise that I am only as good as the things I practice regularly. It applies to nearly everything in my life; skills, thoughts, habits, etc.

There's only one thing on my mind and that's the destination I'm traveling to in a week's time. My days are plagued with disturbed sleep (rare in Shu-burbia), attention deficit disorders, panic attacks and respiratory ailments. The goal is NOT to die of exhilaration in the next few days leading to the actual holiday.

Rihanna's biggest fan these days:

Monday, October 3, 2011

Say hello to bloodshot eyes

I'm going to regret this milo I had at 12 in the midnight.

Dance classes are somewhat enjoyable, although tough. I'm getting several bits of good advice from the instructor like "Relax your shoulders, don't be too stiff", "Dont look down on your feet when dancing", "Look your partner straight in the eye, be confident", "Feel the music", "Relax", etc etc. There is a Hip Hop class going on at the auditorium just before my Salsa class. Today, I was a few minutes early and happened to see the Hip Hop kids taught a robotic dance move with "locking". Pretty amazing, I thought.

Last week, I was eating this stuff at work. Finished a whole pack in a few days. Wonder if Roald Dahl gave them the permission to use that brand name on the box.


I had to invest on a Lonely Planet Traveler's Guide for my vacation overseas. Been reading it diligently at work, trying to remember all the things a traveler must. The section on social etiquette states that one must never accept food with the left hand and must always eat with one's right hand. Great. The first thought was to add "disposable spoons" to my list of things to take. On second thoughts, I'll just give them a piece of my mind; "You want me to start eating with the hand that for 20+ years I've been using for other purposes?? And you'd rather run the risk of getting a bad case of diarrea yourself than see me accept your food with my left hand?? What have you done to the lefties in your nation??"

I say, grow some common sense.

On third thoughts, that might not go down well. I can't even speak their language!

Friday, September 30, 2011

I'm sexy and I know it

No, that title isn't necessarily a reflection of what I think of myself. It's just one of those nonsensical songs being played on radio these days (by a band called LMFAO), which latches parasitically onto recurring thought bubbles and go around your head in circles all day. Also, my sister has fits of giggles when she recalls the video, which is my opinion is just scandalous (too outrageous, that I refuse to post the video on my blog!). But on a different level of contemplation, it is good to see men getting out there and balancing out the playing field, which is currently dominated by women. Go EQUALITY!

Other other day, a high profile guy in the company retired. He must have been in his late fifties, very competent at his job, drove a freakingly expensive car, wealthy (in case the car didn't speak for itself) and a recent divorcee. In his leaving speech, he said didn't have any specific plans to start working right away. Instead, he said he is "going back to thongs" (in his own words), to live in his villa by the beach in Indonesia. Sounded to me like he got tired of all the complexities and sophistications of a metropolitan city and he longed to go back to a simpler life to gather himself.

My ideal retirement plan would be to live by the beach. I'm extremely happy when I'm by the sea; my ears filled with the sound of waves and my eyes filled with the views of the sea. That's when the thoughts in my head are the loudest. I can go for the occassional swim or dive to check out the marine life (and hopefully not be decapitated by a shark or stung by a ray). If I can retire before I become feeble and senile, I'd love to write.

Dreaming is a good past time!

Sunday, September 25, 2011

Classics are CLASSICS!

I might have been about 13-14 years old when I got my first desktop computer. Although I wasn't the first kid in the class to own one, it was a great deal back in the day to own a computer! It was a very entertaining addition, one which my mother had to control with strict timings as we children tend to get carried away and forget homework and chores. My dad was thoughtful enough to send an array of useful CDs and movies from abroad to be enjoyed. Two Encarta CDs, Disney's Tarzan and Hercules game CDs, Roald Dahl's Matilda the movie and Lion King the movie were the ones which were used and overused! Tarzan was the first game I finished completely (with a little help) and it was no easy feat, so the feeling of achievement still lingers. The Encarta encyclopedia CDs were perfect for curious children, wanting to find information quickly and with little effort (and with enhanced mom-free privacy features too!).

I distinctly remember a day I was checking out classical music instruments in one of the encyclopedia CDs. It even included small sound clips to complement the write ups. So I found the piece below tied to the sound of a French Horn and fell in love with it. Madly too, and managed to learn to play about 20 seconds of something which sounded like it in my violin. Today, I was listening to my super-mashed-up playlist on  iTunes, when I came across this same piece (that was very kindly ripped for me by a classical-music-loving-heavymetal-headbanger), which I was obsessive about a decade back so it has been a very emotional day. I can feel the obsession setting in once again and the urge to bring down the dusty violin from up the cupboard!



Also, I have the Tin Tin movie to look forward to in November. It looks F-RIDICULOUSLY AWESOME in the trailer!!! The best part of 2011 is just starting!

WORK, I'm ready for ya! Bring it on.

Friday, September 23, 2011

Another weekend

Thursdays at work are exciting. We now have an "end of the week incentive". We are allowed to leave any hour early, in return for cutting short our lunch break by half hour. Fair enough.

It is not surprising to get persistent calls from banks trying to give away "free credit cards". But today, I had another interesting call.

Ring Ring...
Shu: Hello?
X: Hai
Shu: Yes hello? Who is this?
X: Hai
Shu: May I know what this is regarding?
X: Friendship
Shu: No thanks, I'm not interested. (hangs up. $^&*@@@.)

This caller has been saved as "Asshole 3" in my contacts. Just so I remember not to pick up any calls.

I've spotted a rather skinny (and possibly pregnant) cat in the office car park several times. So now, believe it or not, I carry two tins of cat food in my bag, waiting for the day I spot her again. Uh-oh Shu, you're turning into one of those old ladies who feed strays!

I sit next to one of the network printers. In a day, many people come and go past my desk as they collect their printouts. One man (heavy user), however, seems to think I am the sole guardian of this printer. Whenever the printer runs out of paper, he ask me "No paper?". And I think loudly,  "Does it look like I have a stash of paper hidden away especially for you, moron??". Also, in the many months I have sat there, not once have I seen this man walk a few extra metres to get a few extra packs of paper, for the convenience of others. I've been tempted ask him several times, "Why don't you go down and get some extra paper, for a change?". But I've kept my mouth shut, fearing repercussions.

Rihanna is slowly growing on me...



On a positive note, I've moved to the Town of Digby in Mousehunt to catch the Digby Dirt Dwellers and I have not been disappointed! So many new types of mice!

Thursday, September 22, 2011

In Retrospect

I got home today, to find a guest. She's here to stay with us until she gets back on her feet with a job and a new life. It was nice to meet her after many years. Our lives and families have been inter-twined in the strangest of ways for about two decades! It was good catching up and listening to her, she's naturally talented at relating stories in hilarious ways.

Admittedly, I have developed an aversion to Facebook. Usually, I am able to tolerate the high levels of narcissicism and exaggerated optimism and joy depicted by the collective community of Facebook. But not now.

Out of boredom, I took up reading my old blog. Some of the posts surprised me in a good way. It was mostly interesting to read back on my thoughts and see how some attitudes have changed, and yet how others have not changed one bit. 

I am subtly aware that highs and lows are what makes up Life.

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Been a long time

This song is dedicated to Shu's best-bud-from-school. Welcome D, and I can't think of a proper reason why it took this long! Btw, Lady Gaga (without all the fancy/freaky make-up) reminds me of you. Her vocals in this song are AMAZING. And of course full points for the creativity that went into making the video.

Enjoy!

Monday, September 19, 2011

Shu goes a Salsa-ing

This day has to be logged for future records.


In an attempt to bring a cheer to my otherwise dull life, I decided to take either an aerobics or a dance class. Actually, it was more to get a little physically active so I don't drop dead next month while 'hiking in the Himalayas'. Nowadays, climbing a small staircase at work makes me pant, gasp for breath and curse my lungs. I haven't been this determined to find something in the recent decades, but I spent many hours calling places, google-ing places, looking at advertisements, asking around, reading sites, etc. Until finally, I found the most cost-effective and convenient class, very close to my block.

There's a mad dancer inside me, trapped and waiting to break free from my social-phobia and physical inhibitions. I just hope it decides to come out before I die or become bed-ridden, in other words, not too late. Hip Hop classes, which I have been dying to take since forever were at a timeslot that I could not make. The only choice left was a Salsa class. I have never been a big fan of it, mostly because of the high heels and ass-hugging mini-dresses worn by female Salsa dancers. Just for a month, I thought, I'll take what I can.

This guy's a charm in the Lion King movie! Took me many years to know that "Hakuna matata" was a real phrase very often used in Kenya.

So today, I set out for the first class. Luckily, we were asked to wear track pants and socks (and not heels and minis)! There were just two other girls and the instructor, who looked old enough to be my little brother and who looked remotely related to Timon in Lion King (Oh that reminds me, there's gonna be a remake of Lion King in 3D soon. Woohoo! Think I know almost all the dialogues and scenes by heart!). We learnt the first three basic steps of Salsa, taking turns to partner with different people of both genders. It was very awkward; one's supposed to stare right in the face of the partner to gain confidence and avoid looking at one's feet. Comes to mind a game we used to play as kids. We'd stare at each other's faces and see who cracks with laughter first. Usually, I was first or second to burst out laughing, so needless to say, it was hard. The steps were simple enough, but rapid changing of the steps to music proved challenging.

There's talk of changing the timeslot of this class to one I can't participate next time. So even if this was a one-time experience, it was fun and mostly, it was a new experience that I gave a shot!

Saturday, September 10, 2011

Self-absorbia

Know what people with comfortable lives and plenty of time on their hands do often? They become self-absorbed in their own lives. Then they begin to look around, compare themselves to others and see what they are lacking in their lives. Soon, they begin to feel sorry for themselves. Then they spend their days and nights trying to figure what they could do different, to have the life they dream of.

In the time that their minds are pre-occupied with themselves, it is very easy to forget their beginnings, how some of their actions negatively affect others, the things they've taken for granted, the values that they stood for, small acts they could do to make the lives of others better and the needs of loved ones around them.

Ever so often, someone or something knocks me off my orbit in this self-absorbed universe (kudos to friends who do that!).

Tuesday, September 6, 2011

The Mentalist

I blog while I try to resist the urge to throw up some cheese macaroni I had. But let's rewind for a bit.

The day turned out okay. I managed to do a 15-minute workout in the gym this morning and burn 41 calories (no kidding! Anyway, calories are overated nowadays). It helps now that I have a sophisticated mp3 player. Usually I'd take my phone upstairs and use it like a player during workouts. But complicated as it was, it involved touching my phone too often with sweaty hands and probably depositing on it tonnes of germs left behind by other users of the gym machines. So now, it helps that the mp3 player plays on it's own, with minimal touching. I do have to sort the playlists though as it is a messy goo of songs now. Now, Mozart plays next to Adam Lambert plays next to Amaradeva (an old classical singer in my country that few people my age listen to!) plays next to Kill Switch plays next to Nicky Minaj.

The macaroni! So yeah, I had a huge craving for cheese macaroni and went on to make a pack of San Remo quick cooking macaroni. It said 3 servings, but really that's worse than a cheap marketing trick! It is seriously only one generous serving. Maybe I put in too much milk or it got cold too fast, I lost the enthusiasm after eating 3/4ths of it. Aaand that's how the first line of this blog came about.

I'm hooked on Mentalist , a TV series I scavenged from a generous pile of DVDs given away by a kind soul in office. Actually I snatched all of season 1 AND 2 as I was one of the first few lucky people (flies) to come across this pile of freebies (dung). Early birds get the juicy worms, they say. I finished season 1 and now I have all of season 2 to go! Got to love the main character, Patrick Jane. He has a knack for observing people and evidence and deducing what most detectives miss out during criminal investigations. It marries two of my favourites together - criminal cases and psychology - into a very entertaining series.

For anyone who's curious, here is a little dose of Patrick Jane!



Happy (would-have-been) 65th Birthday, Freddie Mercury! And Google, I must say, I'm impressed with the "doodles" you come up with.

Friday, September 2, 2011

The catsitter diaries

We have a guest in the house! Cindy the cat will be staying with us for a couple of days as her family is on a holiday.

Hardly any space on the table with something as big as this! There's a book for size comparison.


She is all things adorable! Although fat and overfed, this purring-machine is well-trained too (well, she peed on one of my clothes, but I'll let that one go). And those eyes... man, it can melt any sucker (like me) from a mile away. The only downside to this arrangement is that every inch of the house is covered with flyaway fur.

My additional responsibilities with this new arrival have been cleaning litter, feeding, showering her with attention and trying to prevent the nephew from torturing it.

The boy has become quite the bully, finding new ways to hurt Cindy each time. Prodding her with sticks, dropping objects on her, driving over her like she were a road hump, gagging her and following her everywhere. No amount of harsh words or punishment seem to make him stop. It might be jealousy or just an opportunity to get some extra attention.

A soft road hump for the tormentor's bicycle in the background


Either way, I'm further convinced pets are much better investments of one's time and energy than human children.

Thursday, August 25, 2011

Bohemian Rhapsody

“It's one of those songs which has such a fantasy feel about it. I think people should just listen to it, think about it, and then make up their own minds as to what it says to them. "Bohemian Rhapsody" didn't just come out of thin air. I did a bit of research although it was tongue-in-cheek and mock opera. Why not?”
- Freddie Mercury

The first time this song by Queen caught my ears, it went unnoticed.

Until, I watched the season finale of Glee Season 1. This song was performed in a musical by the group Vocal Adrenaline in the finals of a competition. It was a memorable performance, mostly, as this ran concurrently with flashes of scenes from the final episode, revolving around the main characters. Most notable was one scene where a female character screams away in labour pains, while coupled with the “Bismillah! NO! We will not let you go” part of the song. It sent shivers down my spine the first time I watched it!

I have since listened to the song probably a hundred times at least! This song definitely sits somewhere on my top 5 favourite songs of all time.

What is so special about this song? I think it is a bold experimentation and successful mash up of various (and highly specialised) musical styles. I have not come across a piece as diverse and entertaining as this in popular English music. Most speculate that this song has strong ties to Freddie Mercury's personal issues particularly his battle with AIDS. With this in mind, the song creates in my mind, varying emotional states, while taking one through (probably intended) feelings of sadness, regret, fear, anger and finally acceptance of the inevitable end. However, many decades later, this song is still open for speculation as Queen never really clarified it's lyrical significance or it's specific relation to Freddie Mercury.

This song is also a great example of how strongly music can influence with the way we think and feel.

A capella intro (0.00 – 0:49)
A curious invitation to “be open”, probably to prepare a listener to the rest of the song. At this point, the song makes little sense. Some might even be bored at first.

Ballad (0:49 – 2:36)
An emotional piece expressed in a duet between the piano and vocals. A sad account by the song writer crying out his sadness and regret to “his mother,” making it known that it is time to leave and that he is afraid.

Guitar solo (2:36 – 3:03)
A refreshing interlude.

Opera (3:03 – 4:07)
A rather odd addition to to the piece, it is an amusing play of seemingly nonsensical words. But it gradually builds up emotions (as if the person in reference gathers strength and courage, against the odds) towards the end of it. In how many other instances has anyone successfully made a smooth transition from opera to rock?!

Heavy metal (4:07 – 4:56)
This is my favourite part of the piece! It appears to release a lot of the anger and pain left in a man's soul. I'm no fan of heavy metal. But this part always gets me high, so much so that if I closed my eyes, I can very easily picture myself dressed up a rocker (black suit and lots of eye liner) jumping around and performing this bit on stage! Yeah....shocking (and fictional!).

Outro (4:56 – 5:55)
A soothing end, that seems to conclude with some sort of closure with acceptance of facts.




Queen is a band that has surpassed greatness and now remains on an immortal throne in the music world. This was a band that was not afraid to challenge conventional musical styles or venture out of their comfort zones. Few bands shared the same success that Queen did in their lifetime. If you need more evidence of this, look no further than video clips of past Queen concerts and the oceans of fans who surrounded them! That was the result when the musical genius of 4 great men - Freddie Mercury, Brain May, Roger Taylor and John Deacon - came together.

Queen Lives On.

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Social tales

I try not to make this blog too depressing and think of ways to word things in a way that exposes the humour behind random events in life. Sometimes I fail.

Opportunity vs Etiquette

Can you blame people for not being "courteous", when they were probably brought up in an environment which didn't teach such social etiquette? I think not.

The other day, I walk out of work to find out the vehicle battery had died. First reaction was panic. I called my sister overseas to ask what to do. I informed my travel buddies to find alternate arrangements to go home. I made several frantic calls to garages and people who might be able to help. I had to ask the company's COO to help jump start the battery through his vehicle's battery, so that I might be able to drive to a garage. That attempt failed. It was getting dark, and I wanted to go home. Forced to leave my vehicle outside my office, I made my way to the taxi stand.

I was first in the "queue" for taxis. There was another gentlemen in second place. It was the time when Muslims broke their fast, and there was not a taxi in sight for a long time. Soon a group of 4 men appeared out of nowhere, hailed down the first taxi that passed us, and prepared to get in, when the guy in second place called out "Excuse me, you can't take that taxi. She was here before you. Let the lady go in this". Those in the larger group refused the request. The taxi guy sided with the group (nationality may have played a part), saying "they saw me first" and he refused to take me. A fierce argument ensued between the one guy and the group. I can't recall what I was doing, maybe I was just watching the scene as if I were a spectator. In the end the taxi driver just drove off with no passengers! Shortly after, another taxi arrived and I got in.

Moral of the story: 
For Shu - FIGHT!
For the men who jumped a turn: Look around you, you are no longer in your home country! A little patience and courtesy will keep everybody's blood pressures at optimal range.


The Phoney Pharmacist

Today, with most of my recent troubles settled, I went on a round of errands after work. Did some grocery shopping, took the vehicle for a much-needed wash and made my way to a pharmacy. I was greeted by a very (fakely) jolly pharmacist:

P: How are you? (big smile). I have not seen you lately.
Shu: I'm fine, thanks (not like I'd tell you even if I was not fine. And I have been here only once or twice in the last year. I have not seen you in this store before. Either you are mistaken or you are just faking it.) How are you? (I dont care, really, but I'm following stupid social protocol).
P: um..... Good thanks.
Shu: Can I have a pack of tablet X?
P: Yes. Is this for you?
Shu: Yes. (I don't see how that matters here, but okay)
As I wait for my payment to be processed....
P: So where are you from?
Shu: Country Y.
P: Oh (big grin). Where do you work?
Shu: Place Z
P: (looks at the tablet box) So you are trying for a baby, huh?
Shu: (WTF? Enough with the questions already. Give me the damn tablets.) Hmmm.
P: So where does your husband work?
Shu: (Loses temper) I'm not married. I'm taking a course of this tablet for a different issue. (Now do you have anymore asinine questions for me???) 
P: (Smile vanishes). OH.

Moral of this story:
For Shu: FIGHT!
For the fake pharmacist: Fake customer service SHOWS. So don't even try it.

Monday, August 15, 2011

Laziness, I fear, might be a dominant genotype

What do you do when you are a slave of your mind?
You sit and watch your boat (of life) sail by, further and further and further away from the dock of your dreams and goals.

I just discovered a very yummy recipe for a very lazy type of meal. As follows:

Cheapy n Tasty Steamed Corn
1 can of whole kernel corn
Salt and butter to taste

Open the can, drain and warm up the corn. Warming by steam is preferred, however a microwave would work too. Avoid boiling the corn in water (that would give you tasteless and nutrition-less corn). Add lots of butter and a pinch of salt. Mix. Sit back and enjoy while you blog, read or watch TV.

Today, I was caught by a sympathetic colleague while eating the same food for lunch from 3 days back. Although, it was prepared in such away that it can be preserved for several days, she took pity on me and offered (forcefully) to bring me lunch tomorrow despite objections.


This is the latest addition to my room decor. A curious gift, but one that perfectly suits a curious creature as I. I have managed to assemble it while the family was away, as junior might find joy in taking a bird bath in it or introduce foreign material to the setup. The sound of running water, apart from serving as a timely reminder to pee regularly, has a very soothing effect. I must admit, it sets a great atmosphere to write. All I miss now is sound of birds chirping away (the air conditioning can replace a cool breeze).

Last night my computer crashed in an attempt to fix a malfunctioning phone. I was forced to reformat it on my own. All this while I had never attempted a reformat out of several imagined situations, where things might go wrong and I'll end up without a laptop. Regardless of gender, I think it is important for all to try to learn to change a bulb, reformat a computer, change a tyre, change a diaper, cook a meal and sew a tear (who knows when it might save you an inconvenience?). Anyway, I had failed to create a backup of my documents recently, so a lot of important documents, chat logs, cherished photos and videos have been lost. Then again, life goes on, with or without your important files. We adapt to circumstances.

Through life's hardships, debts and obligations, one must not forget to live a little. So today, I said yes to a friend who wanted to buy discounted tickets to a themed water park. Guess my haircut will have to be sacrificed this month to make up for additional entertainment costs. Now that wasn't a difficult choice to make!

My computer tricked me into sleeping an hour early last night. Instead of 10:45pm, it read 11:45pm and that was enough to send me running off to bed in disappointment as my "pre-Monday blues" had already kicked in by then.

But not tonight, you evil thing.


We want, therefore we get

I'm reading a book by Richard Dawkins called "The Greatest Show on Earth: The Evidence for Evolution". Progress has been very slow but it is an insightful book, from what I've managed to read so far, especially for those with scientific curiosity and love for Biology.

Humans are driven by the inherent quality to manipulate their surroundings for selfish gains. Otherwise, how might one explain these?

Bulldogs - these pedigree dogs are carefully bred to maintain their characteristic traits. However, their physique also makes them prone to various health complications, such as breathing difficulties, pug dog encephalitis, abnormal verterbral growth, weakened immune system, painful births - some of which have to be "resolved" by euthanasia.






Belgian Blue cattle - a defect in it's genome that codes for accelerated muscle growth is maintained by selective breeding, resulting in highly marketable beef. Downsides (to the cow) include painful births (which have to be avoided by caesarian births) and, of course, existing solely for the purpose of meat.

In the grand scheme of things, where "progress" is measured in instant gratification and size of benefits, what purpose does morality serve?

Monday, August 8, 2011

Smart minds

Gym Timings
Open from 9:00am - 9:00pm, Saturday to Thursday*
Ladies:  9:00am - 11:00am, 4:00pm - 6:00pm (a total of 4 hours)
Men:    11:30am - 3:30pm, 6:30pm - 9:00pm (a total of 6.5 hours)

*The work week here is from Sunday to Thursday. Some unfortunate folk work on Saturday as part of a 6-day work week.

The above timings are the gym access hours in my residential building. At first glance, it can be inferred that this schedule must have been drafted by:

a) a man who thought that it was more important for men to workout than is it for the ladies. So in addition to longer hours, he also gives his "brothers" prime gym timings on all the days. OR,

b) a woman who was jealous of other working women - maybe because she has no access to a gym, or no time to hit the gym or she has little success with her own workouts. OR,

c) a computer program that generates random time sequences.

I work from 9:00am to 6:00pm on weekdays, and by this schedule, I cannot use the gym on a weekday. And if on Saturday morning (my off day) I happen to indulge in a few extra hours of sleep between 9:00am and 11:00am or happen to run some errands between 4:00pm and 6:00pm, then my chances of using the gym are entirely lost. Not that I care, but here I thought some common sense might be used when creating a schedule such as this.

Now I have found ways around this problem. I have spoken to the building keeper to open up the gym for me at 7:00am, when he does his cleaning rounds. Somedays when he happens to clean the gym at 7:00am, it is not available. But on the days I motivate myself to go one flight of stairs to the gym, which is about 4 days on a good month, I manage a 15-minute workout on one of the running machines and burn 98 calories a day. That is until my nemesis comes for his workout at 7:30am.  This annoying man, refusing to use the good hours allocated to his gender by the building management, prefers to encroach on my time. One day I found him sitting on a muscle building machine and chattering away on the phone. USE THE CORRIDOR DAMMIT. DONT HOG THE GYM IF YOU AREN'T USING IT.

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Public Library Timings
8:00am - 9:00pm on weekdays
Closed on weekends.

I'll start of by saying, I am glad I can used the library on weekdays from 7:30pm to 8:40pm after work.

But what kind of library is closed on weekends? Isn't that when people (mostly working adults and school children) have the time to come and use library facilities? It seems the public library caters mostly to telecommuters, housewives/ househusbands, the unemployed, some school children, some university students and some people who work irregular shifts.

Today I find out that due to the month of fasting, libraries close at 5:30pm on weekdays. All flickering hopes of studying for an impending GRE exam have vanished. I am doomed.


Pictures courtesy of Google Images.

Saturday, August 6, 2011

Ramble, ramble

My thoughts on blogging so far (part 1):

Expressing my thoughts by writing was not exactly new to me when I started my first proper blog. I always knew at the back of my head that writing my thoughts was much easier than speaking them out. Inside the world of Shu's head, everything is calm and quiet, except for her loud voice, chattering away nonstop. Writing gives the feeling that time slows down, so thoughts have time to analyse and re-organise themselves. There are no concerns when writing -  no one to judge you while you write, no one to notice how you look like, no one to interupt your stream of thought, no one to offend you or no one waiting eagerly for a response - as a result, written expression comes out nearly as free and natural as they originate in the mind.

Writing this blog extended over 2 days due to distractions, so I lost the original train of thought and I was only able to manage that one paragraph.

But here is a rather catchy, nonsensical song playing on radio and in my head these days... nice idea for making bubbles (if it really works, that is)...

Saturday, July 30, 2011

The Animal Camp

Life always finds a way. For some, it was to our backyard.

If only animals could communicate with us. Maybe they do, in subtle ways that we understand only if we are sensitive enough to notice.

For as long as I lived in my home country, we've always had an animal of some sort taking refuge in our house, along with the abundance of children who would act as the care takers (myself and two other pals). They came in all sorts of sizes and colours and from all sorts of backgrounds, the animals I mean. And they always found plenty of love, attention (perhaps too much), shelter, food, warmth and safety in our home.

Tragedy hits not only humans; it happens in the animal kingdom too. The monsoons and winds wash away nests of birds and squirrels, while alarmed parents watch helplessly. Some cats and dogs get hit by vehicles and are left by the road side either to be run over again or to die slowly in pain. Some kittens and puppies, only a few days old, are snatched away from the warmth of their mothers, tied in large bags and thrown in the river. Some luckier ones are either thrown in dumpsters or are abandoned stealthily in backyards like ours. Some badly wounded animals are rescued from the tenacious grips of predators. Some orphaned baby animals cry their guts out for their mothers, who have fled out of helplessness and fear of humans. Others are rescued from the misery of physical abuse caused by my fellow human beings. This world is often too cruel to them.

Thalaya

One sunny afternoon, I was doing my usual rounds of garden exploration during a school holiday, when I saw a curious face pop out of a snake hole. Must be a snake, I thought, as it had a pink forked tongue. But I was curious so I stayed on to watch quietly from a distance. After a trying game of waiting, which 'he' lost, he came out of his hidey hole. He turned out to be a clouded monitor lizard. Our area was not known for this species of lizard so we can only speculate as to where he came from. Over the next few weeks, he and I got friendly, although progress was very slow. At first, he would only let me stroke his head, then slowly he would drink water out of my hand and finally, he let me pull him out of his hole and carry him. The slightest sound would send this dirt dweller in a scurry back into the hole and his sharp nails would leave me with scratch marks. Sometimes he would be gone for a long time, like a week, but he always returned. I would wait eagerly for him to pop his head back out. Eventually, he was no more. Maybe he relocated, or a dog killed him or a human killed him. There is a running myth that eating this lizard's tongue would make a person very smart and increase memory retention immensely. Maybe it was just another way of saying, nothing can cure stupidity.

Pepe

This orange shaded cow was named after a corn snack we used to like eating. Parallel to our housing scheme was a very remote village. Many villagers would trespass into the housing scheme we lived in, and bring their cattle to graze. These untied cattle would raid into our gardens and destroy entire plants, leaving many of the residents unhappy. While this was going on, we made friends with a little boy who used to bring his cattle to graze. We dubbed him 'Cow Boy”. He was not much older than we were and we enjoyed asking him a lot of questions on what he did. He used to give graphic details of how his female cows gave birth, among other stories. We also made friends with his cows. My mom was not too happy when we fed bananas (meant for us to eat) to the cows. Pepe was one of those cows, who seemed to remember us very well, even many years later.

Furball

One fine day, we were playing badminton on the road. Our pet cat was hunting for small prey nearby and the next thing we know, she had a wild rabbit's neck lodged between her jaws. Back then, I was against letting nature take its course and allowing a predator savour its prey. We jumped in, strangled the cat, tried to pry open its jaws and managed to pull out a shocked rabbit bleeding from its neck. The neck wound was not too deep and after a few days of care at our place, he recovered. We released him back to where we found him. It was a joy to see him hop away into the wild.

Barbie, Goony & Wooly

My sister used to work in a very beautifully landscaped five star hotel in an area renown for its wildlife. Once, the staff found an orphaned baby squirrel and handed it over to her as she was known for her kind ways. Barbie, went to work with my sister everyday, either hiding inside her hair or sometimes, sleeping shamelessly in the pocket-like spot inside her bra. She loved to eat muffins from the breakfast buffet spread. Sometimes, when my sister came over for the weekend, she would bring Barbie along so we can play with her. Soon after, my sister was called to another rescue mission. This time, two more baby squirrels were found abandoned inside a vehicle (the mother must have given birth in a hurry and fled when she realised there were too humans in the area) and they were handed over to my sister. She sent the two of them to us as she had a full time job to keep and already one squirrel to look after! Goony and Wooly grew up fast from a state of pinkishness to having pretty fur with their distinct markings. They fancied yogurt, rice and fruits. Our house looked like a mini-jungle, with branches and leaves fixed for their comfort and enrichment. Doors and windows were always shut so our two cats couldn't get in. The duo would steal my hair bands and handkerchiefs and try to make nests out of those. They loved to play hide and seek when we read the newspapers. They had the most adorable way of yawning and lifting its front foot when we stroked the chest. One day, in a freak of carelessness, a door was left open and they got away. We can only hope they eventually adapted to the wild.

Thinny, Swordtail & Fatty

After much begging and pleading, our mom finally allowed us to keep fish. The three of us visited the aquarium and picked one each. There was Fatty, Thinny and Swordtail. If I recall well, Thinny was mine. They lived in a big glass jar for quite a long time. Swordtail died and the other two made little fish and went on to eat them. We learned later that the small ones had to be separated from the adults till they were big enough not to be bullied. All went well, until the school holidays came and my friends went home for the vacation. I was admittedly careless, the jars might have been too dirty and all the fish died. It was hard to explain that to my friends when they returned. 

Froggie

There once used to be a small frog that would hop all the way from our indoor toilet, up the stairs and to the outdoors in the mornings. He would then, in the evening, make his way from the outdoors to the inside toilet, on the same route down the stairs, almost like he were a tenant of the house. We were amused by how piously he made his journey everyday. Sometimes he would stop at the stairs to entertain us, while we examined him closely or stroked it. He had the smoothest (and icy cold) frog skin ever! And those bright black eyes and the wide mouth... it was almost as if he were smiling at us!

Sumudu

This log squirrel (also known as a giant squirrel) was rescued by one of my uncles, again by chance. This little guy and his mother were captured off a plantation (they are considered pests and a delicacy in most areas) and taken to be someone's dinner. Sadly, the mother ended up in someone's plate, but the little one after a some convincing (as he was probably too small and not meaty enough) came to live with my uncle. My uncle in turn, handed him to us. Although a wild squirrel, we could not release it outside as it had not learned enough skills from its mother for survival. Several attempts to teach coconut-tree climbing failed when it succumbed to gravity he fell flat on the ground. We came up with the most natural habitat we could build inside a bedroom; bridges, obstacles and play things made with branches, twigs and leaves. Every day, we would find different fruits and flowers for him to feed on. We were all a happy family until a new Wildlife Act was passed in the country, prohibiting this type of species to be kept as household pets. So we had to give him away to a monastry, where I was promised he would be better off. Parting with him was a very hard thing to do to, we had shared so much of warm memories together. Many months later, I heard he was mauled by the dogs in the monastry.

Keli & Benzi

One evening, I was on the way to the nearby grocery store when I noticed a dog lying on the side of the road. Asking around, I found out she was hit by vehicle and unable to move. We would regularly take milk and food to feed her, as she lay on the side of the road. A few days later, she (Keli) started to limp around and made her way to the nearest house, one belonging to a 90+ year old grandma (a very tough cookie, who loved to chit chat) who was living on her own. We would still visit Keli afterwards with food and she grew very fond of us. Later, she had one fat pup, which she was happy to come show off at our place. She was ever so loyal to us for many years, it was almost as if she remembered that we once cared for her. I heard recently that Keli died, probably of old age. I still meet Benzi, her pup (now the size of a small cow) when I visit home for the holidays and she remembers me too.

Pini & her legacy

This pretty calico cat was accidentally discovered one rainy day, while a shabby old man was emptying her from a sack into a dumpster! My mom says she was only a few weeks old then. Pini came to live with my mom, who was living alone at the time, as all the other family members were scattered in faraway countries. She became the only companion my mom had for a long time. She had four generations of offspring; the fourth died out, the first and second generations grew up and left our home for greener pastures, as did Pini, although she still pays the occasional visit. She is fat as a pig now, thanks to a friendly neighbour who overfeeds her and lets her laze all day on their couch. Her daughter, Kitty from the third generation still lives with our family.

Fawn (yet to be named)

Dad with fawn
She is the newest addition to the animal camp. A fawn, injured and left behind by the pack. Living far away from home, we have to rely on regular updates from the parents to see how she is doing. Apparently, she loves to feed on fresh cows milk and dash around the house. She's even formed an alliance with Kitty: Kitty can have all the left over milk and in return, she would not claw the fawn's face! Releasing her into the wild remains doubtful without the herd around, as she is not even weaned. This type of deer is also protected by law so it is not legal to keep one in a house so she will soon be re-homed. [Afternote: Sadly, this little one died an unpleasant death, after being attacked by dogs and before a suitable home was found.]

Those were a few stories that left lasting impressions. There were many other birds, bats, rats, tortoises, cats and dogs which came into our lives and left.

Looking back, I'm thankful my family supported us in every adoption, rescue and rehabilitation mission we undertook, regardless of its outcome. Some missions failed miserably and we ended up learning to deal with sadness and loss. But all lessons learned and experiences gained have been golden.


Photographs (resembling actual characters) courtesy of Google Images.

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